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Time to End the End of the World

How can such a thing be achieved?  It can’t.  The world will one day end whether we want it to or not.  What I mean by the title is that it’s time to stop wasting so much time over-analyzing and over-thinking how the world will end and when it will end.  This is mostly what we call ‘conspiracy theories’.  Here are some theories of when the end times will occur:

1. The Battle of Armageddon will happen in 2018 – Drat, I really wanted to have children at some point in my life.  Unless I get married and get at least one child before 2018, I guess it’s not happening.  This theory was brought up by F. Kenton Beshore, President of the World Bible Society.  This theory was made because it’s believed that Jesus will return one biblical generation after Israel was founded as a modern state in 1948.  Keep in mind though, that Hal Lindsey thought the generation would pass in 1988.  We’re still here.

2. The Sign of Two depicting Jesus’ return in 2029 – Well at least if it’s in 2029, I’ll have enough time to teach my kid how to play ball or ride a bike.  This theory came about when a man named Mike Flipp apparently saw signs two years leading up to 2005 that apparently had the significance of the number ’2′.  The number ’2′ in this case is meant to foreshadow Jesus’ Second Coming.  When he deciphered these signs, he apparently came up with the date 2029 AD, however that happened.

Then of course we have the not-very-Revelation theories concerning robots taking over the world and that kind of scary stuff.  The point is, we are wasting our time trying to come up with these predictions.  There is one verse in the Bible that pretty much sums up how worthless it is:

‘But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father’. – Matthew 24:36 NIV

When it comes to the way we are meant to live our lives here on earth, I always say this: God put us on the earth to enjoy it, not worry about when it all ends.  If we constantly worry, predict, or try to analyze when the End Times come, we miss out on the things that are most important, which includes pursuing a relationship with God.  Joy and peace are some of the fruits of the Spirit, and trying to find conspiracies don’t offer either of those things.  In my previous two articles, I talk about ‘staying in the moment’ or learning how to find your purpose.  Continue to do that while you still can.  It’s true that the Bible tells us to be alert for when the time comes, but that doesn’t mean stopping everything in our lives and preventing some incredible things to happen in our lives.  God has plans for you to give you a hope and a future.  Trying to predict the end of the world doesn’t inspire hope, and it only suggests dread and fear to be a part of your future, which brings me to another verse:

‘For God did not give us a spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control’. – 2 Timothy 1:7 NET

Be excited for your future.  Be hopeful and trust God in all things.  He has a plan for your life that promises things beyond our imagination.  God has blessed me with so many good things this year (more on that in a future article) and I can’t even begin to imagine what He has planned for me in 2015.  Because of His promises, I’m beyond thrilled for the future.

Staying In It: Let’s Live In The Moment

In the oppressive cold of the Himalayas, Ben Stiller’s Walter Mitty watches Sean O’ Connell looking at a snow leopard with a camera waiting to take a picture.  Sean doesn’t take a picture however, but just continues to stare at the leopard as if mesmerized.  Confused, Walter asks Sean if he’s going to take a picture.  Sean replies with, “Sometimes I don’t.  If I like a moment, for me, personally, I don’t like to have the distraction of the camera.  I just want to stay in it.”  ”Stay in it?” Walter asks.  ”Yeah.  Right there.  Right here,” Sean says.

All  the things in the world that demands our attention tends to keep us from living in the moment and just being mesmerized by the beauty that’s in front of us.  Our work, our daily routine, and our responsibilities tend to make us rush and be too busy to take a moment and actually live in it.  What does that mean though, to live in the moment?  Aren’t we already living as long as we’re breathing?

Well yes, we are living scientifically speaking as long as we’re still breathing, but what it means to actually live for real is to drop all distractions, forget about the things that demand our attention if they can wait, and reflect on the  value and preciousness of life.

We spend so much time making sure to stay on top of work and reach our ambitious goals that we tend to forget that we live in a world where there is beauty to be seen and blessings to be counted.  It’s important to drop everything that distracts us and see the beauty.  You can spend a little bit of time outside and admire your favorite aspects of God’s green earth.    Do what needs to be done to keep yourself focused.  If listening to music distracts you, then don’t listen to it.  Just embrace  the silence.  Sean O’ Connell also says that ‘true beauty doesn’t ask for attention’.  A lot of things today scream for our attention such as negative news, movies, Facebook stats, etc.  True beauty such as nature doesn’t ask for attention, but it deserves to have attention.

You can put aside your work-related priorities to spend quality time with your loved ones.  Dedicate time to hang out with family, friends, your significant other, etc.  Also, let the event be about the other person instead of yourself.  Be a blessing to those around you.  You will never regret spending personal quality time with those you love.

Finally, what are your hobbies besides work or things that are part of your daily routine?  What do you enjoy doing that gives you peace?  Do you like taking pictures of snow leopards (if you happen to live in areas where there are snow leopards)?  Do you enjoy writing, reading a good book, knitting, or tending to your garden?  Do what you love and put yourself completely in it.  Right there.  Right here.

For Christians, put everything aside to pray to God.  God can lighten your burdens and help you to have optimism and stress-free periods at work if you ask.  I’m going to wrap this up with a good verse that I think can be inspirational whether you’re a God-fearing man or not.

Don’t worry about anything; instead pray about everything.  Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done.  If  you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand.  - Philippians 4:6-7a

Let’s live in the moment.

 

Who Do You Think You Are? 4 Things To Know About Yourself

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In a world that’s full of media telling you to be all this or that, it’s hard for us as humans to get a grasp of who we really are.  What are your dreams?  What are your real core values and beliefs?  What do you want to represent and what kind of a person do you want to call your own?  We can even ask the simple, existential-ish questions and ask: Who are we?  What are we?

Ultimately, the question to ask is: Do you know who you are?  Movies and TV shows tend to influence our outlook on who we are or what we should be.  What do you think is your purpose?  What is it that you want to do?  Teens in high school today are constantly pushed to be something that they’re not.  Expectations for people seem to be exceedingly high, and we can’t seem to get enough quiet time to think about it.  So, to make this straight and clear, there are several questions to ask.

1. What are your dreams?  Everyone has a passion that they dream of pursuing, but unfortunately, many don’t get up and actually pursue it.  What do you feel called to do?  Whether you’re a Christian who believes you are called by God to do something or not, everyone has a calling, even if they don’t realize it at first.  It’s something that we need to search for.  Sometimes that involves trying out new things.  At no point in our lives will we finally learn everything about mother Earth.  There’s always something to learn and explore.  There’s a whole world out there waiting for you.  Go out and find your dream.

2. What are your core values?  What is it that you believe?  Do you believe that you’re here because of some cosmic coincidence or do you believe there’s a god with a plan for us?  Yeah, I just snuck in a nerdy reference, deal with it.  But seriously, what is it that you hold near and dear to your values?  What do you believe about life and morality?  Whatever you decide to do, what you believe about life, morality, and religion is entirely up to you.  People make decisions to believe in something else overtime, but it’s not for anyone to decide what you’ll believe.  That’s your decision to make.

3. What are your relationships like with other people?  Your relationships influence the way people think about you and even influences the person you’re bound to become.  This is a short segment, but an important one.

4. Sometimes, to find yourself means to leave your normal life and go on adventures to escape from normalcy and discover what fires you up.  When I say adventure, I’m not exactly suggesting you go the way of Ben Stiller’s Walter Mitty, although, going out there to explore the world is not a bad idea.

To wrap up, I think it’s important to mention that one of the reasons why people don’t want to get up and find themselves is because of media and news.  Depressing news tends to keep people withdrawn in their comfort zone.  Trust me, I know this from experience.  Our generation is oversaturated by the media that influences them to be something that they are not, and it prevents them from finding their true selves.  Don’t be afraid to get up and step out your comfort zone.  Be the person that you are truly meant to be, not what other people say you should be.  You’re going to be different from other people, but different is good.  The true you isn’t lost somewhere on the other side of the world.  It’s with you, it’s just a matter of mining it and finding what’s underneath.  Be different, dream big, and never stop learning.

5 Reasons Why I Liked A Matter of Faith

After feeling disappointed by God’s Not Dead, I’m happy to say that the latest film in what appears to be a long line of Christian/Bible-based films this year did not disappoint.  A Matter of Faith was a film that surprised me in a good way.  Seeing the trailer for this movie did not show much promise, and felt like it was just trying to mimic God’s Not Dead.  Thankfully, this didn’t turn out to be the case.  I went to see it with absolutely no expectations and I found myself enjoying it.  Below are five reasons why I felt this film was good.  As a forewarning, there are major spoilers to follow, so if you haven’t seen this movie and you want to, then I recommend you wait.

To start off, the plot of the movie is a girl named Rachael who graduates high school and is heading off to college to study biology.  Her biology class is taught by Professor Kaman, who teaches evolution as fact (which is way more believable than a philosophy professor making the students write ‘God is dead’ for a grade).  Because of this, Rachael begins to be influenced by her professor’s teachings, which concerns her father.  As a result, her father ends up challenging the professor in a famous debate: Evolution vs. Creationism.  Now to list why I felt this film was good:

1.  This film has a much more straightforward, easy-to-follow storyline that doesn’t try to add in a bunch of subplots and extra side messages that many other Christian films attempt to do.  The central lesson of this movie all comes down to this: Believing in a god that created the universe and choosing to have a relationship with Jesus Christ doesn’t result in a matter of ‘fact’, it results in a matter of faith, hence the movie title.  It all comes down to what we choose to believe.  Former Professor Portland in the movie spoke the truth when he said that we can argue back and forth with each other about how our beliefs in the origin of the world are logical, but it won’t change anything.  People make the decision to turn to Christ through love, not logic.  The logic of an intelligent designer is already around them, they just choose not to accept it.  It’s the actions of Christians that win them over and it’s the love Christians show the others that gives us hope that others will change their minds about what they believe.  Professor Portland displayed this by apologizing to Kaman for the bitterness he had towards him and he forgave Kaman for firing him from the school.  That was a powerful moment that made me nod in approval in the theater.

2.  Like I said above, this film doesn’t try to be something so big that it feels too overwhelming.  This film feels much more focused and seems to know exactly what it wants to be at the end of the day.  There’s also no Newsboys and Duck Dynasty to find here (thank God).  In fact, there’s no mainstream Christian music in this film at all until the very end, but at that point, it almost felt fitting and was a welcome way to start rolling the credits.  This film felt raw and honest, and I felt it had a little something for both sides of the issue.  Almost all of the characters in this film played a big part in the story and contributed well.  This felt more like a real movie that knew what it was doing instead of trying to be a Christian propaganda piece.

3.  I really liked the fact that the Christians here weren’t portrayed as perfect people.  Rachael was the character that Josh Wheaton from God’s Not Dead should have been.  Rachael was conflicted, her faith was challenged, and she made choices that she would regret.  I think a lot of Christian parents can relate to the fear of seeing their children off to college.  Will their kids continue to hold on tight to their faith?  Will they make the right decisions now that they don’t have their parents’ supervision?  This movie takes a good look at that, without going through all the trouble of adding all the aspects such as alcohol, drugs, and sex to add more needless drama.  Cracking eggs over a guy’s head promising him a hundred bucks and then cheating him from it, which sparked a trend that caused Rachael to get into an unhealthy relationship, was a decent way to go.

4.  Making the professor’s ultimate decision at the end somewhat ambiguous was an excellent move on the writers’ part.  The movie leaves it to the viewer’s imagination to wonder what the professor chooses to believe.  I know that a lot of Christians would want to see a clear conclusion where the unbeliever chooses Christ and we can all rejoice for the character, but why not have a little bit of mystery?  The important thing is that the debate got the professor thinking.  He’s at least rethinking what he believes.  His last scene in the movie where he’s looking deep in thought at the stuffed chicken was a great way for his character arc to end.  Is anybody familiar with the fictional story An Imperial Affliction from The Fault in Our Stars?  I think it’s about as powerful as that.

5.  Finally, it’s important to mention that this movie also technically bashes the Evolution/Creation debate.  Arguing with someone who isn’t a Christian is, at the end of the day, a horrible waste of time.  It’s perfectly understandable that we want others to believe what we believe because, to us, it’s fulfilling and infuses hope in our lives.  I believe that some of us assume that anyone who isn’t a Christian has a miserable, depressing life with no positive aspects to go around.  At the end of the day, God changes their minds, not us.  God leads people to Him.  We’re the ones who plant the seeds, and then we’re supposed to step back and allow God to work within the lives of those we’ve affected.  We can’t force our doctrine down other people’s throats just like others shouldn’t force their doctrine down our throats.  How is that treating each other with love and respect?  We’re supposed to show love to them, not ridicule them for what they believe.

That all being said, this film was in no way perfect.  The music for the first twenty minutes seemed to be the same fifteen-second track on a loop, and some of the dialogue wasn’t very well written.  When Professor Portland does his speech near the end of the film, I felt like I was watching a video sermon instead of an actual movie.  Thankfully, the speech was very well written and was one of the key components for the way I felt about this film, so I’m not really going to bash it.  I recommend this film for both Christians and non-Christians because it contains a message that I think both sides desperately need to hear.  It puts a lot of those Evolution/Creation debates to shame, and teaches us something valuable.  Believing in God isn’t a matter of fact, it’s a matter of faith.

10 Reasons Why I Disliked God’s Not Dead

I said I would do this, and now I’m doing it.  Below is a list of ten reasons why I didn’t like God’s Not Dead.  I would like to point out that when I started watching the film, I was willing to be open-minded and give this a chance.  Unfortunately, I was disappointed by the film, and despite the encouragement I’ve gotten to show this film to people who are not Christians, I will not be doing that.  So here it goes:
1. To start off, no philosophy professor whether atheist or not, would basically force his students to write ‘God is dead’ on a paper and get graded for it.  I know this from hearing the opinions of other atheist professors.  The true fact is that if an atheist professor was caught doing this, the university would fire him, because his actions were a violation against the First Amendment which clearly states this: Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances.  Regardless of your opinions or your point of view about how the First Amendment is being treated today, it still stands and professors would be fired for doing something like this.  Professors, atheist or not, know this, therefor would never dare to do this.  It is true that atheist professors have challenged an individual’s faith in the classroom, but have not done it in any way this extreme.
2. Which actually leads to my problem with Professor Radisson himself.  Not only did he do something that was against our rights as American people, but he was also portrayed as someone who was selfish, arrogant, and even verbally abusive.  If having me write ‘God is dead’ in the classroom wasn’t enough to make me report him, stopping me in the hallway by putting a rough hand on my shoulder and turning me around to face him and then tell me that he is god in the classroom, I would definitely report him then.  I can’t for the life of me see how he can get away with this.  Also, if Professor Radisson truly hated God and disliked Christians, why does he have a Christian girlfriend?
3. A short note on Radisson’s Christian girlfriend.  I can’t think of any reason why a Christian girl would choose to live with an atheist.  There’s also the fact that the two of them are living together before marriage, which is something Christians believe is wrong.  This is a girl who has obviously made some pretty stupid decisions.  It is true that the girlfriend finally decided to abandon Radisson because he wasn’t right for her, but it’s hard to feel sympathy for her, because she made really stupid choices in the first place that, in my opinion, puts Christians in a bad light.
4. I should probably mention the subplots and other characters right now.  If this film is really supposed to be about a college student challenging his professor’s stance, why do we have subplots of a Muslim girl and a girl with cancer?  These subplots added absolutely nothing to the plot.  If they were in the same class as Josh Wheaton, and were affected by the debates, that would’ve been something a little more worthwhile to see.  But no. Neither characters cross paths with each other or Josh or the professor or the pastor or anyone.  The pastor even felt shoehorned in so that he could affect some of the other storylines throughout the film.  Unfortunately, I’m given no reason to care for him or his welfare.  He’s there to be like a human ‘God’, which would’ve been okay if this film was all about him.  I lost complete respect for him when he got angry at the car salesman and said ‘lying to an ordained minister is even worse’.  That’s treating other people with love.  I also hated how the cancer girl’s boyfriend brushed off her illness like it was an inconvenience by saying, and I quote “couldn’t this have waited until tomorrow?”.
5. Which would bring me now to the overall view of Christians and non-Christians in this film.  This movie made it very clear that it thinks Christians are perfect, flawless, and all-knowing, while non-Christians (especially atheists) are miserable, nasty, heartless, discriminating people. I was actually offended by this portrayal of atheists even though I’m not an atheist myself.  The Bible specifically says that we’re supposed to treat all people regardless of their beliefs with love and kindness.  America strives to create a sense of equality between people regardless of their background, culture, religion etc.  I don’t think Christians are helping that by viewing atheists in their films like this.  In this movie, every atheist is a terrible person that mocks and hates Christians.  I’ve met people who aren’t Christians that respect Christians even if they have different beliefs.  In fact, I’ve gotten along very well with people who are different.
6. I admire the idea that Josh Wheaton wants to stand up for his own faith, especially in a place that’s hostile towards it, but it just didn’t work here.  Aside from the bad start of the conflict where Radisson has his students write ‘God is dead’ for a grade,  Josh has been dating the same girl for six years.  If he was that committed to God and that passionate about Him, he should’ve realized that this particular girl was not the right one for him quite a long while ago. In fact, I noticed there were three breakups in this film.  That’s just not creative from a storytelling standpoint.  Romantic relationships are put in a negative light here, because it views your significant other as someone who is an obstacle in your path towards your goals and will abandon you at the first sign of something they don’t like about you.  Josh’s girlfriend abandons him at the first sign of him standing up for his faith.  I understand that by doing something that sounds outrageous or crazy, it means there will be some obstacles in the way, and some things in your life you’re going to have to get rid of, but this was a bad example to use for reasons which I just mentioned.
7. During the debates between Josh and Professor Radisson, while there were some interesting and even valid comparisons between philosophers and what the Bible says, I think the most significant problem about this debate was how one-sided it was.  Josh tried to push the idea that God’s not dead because the Bible says so, and the Professor tried to push the idea that God is dead and philosophy is true because of what certain philosophers said.  In this case, I’m especially embarrassed for Josh because he says that everything about God is true because the Bible says so.  No one will accept that idea.  To people who aren’t Christians, the Bible is just a well-written book that is centered around a religious belief.  If you’re going to say that something is true because the Bible says so, you have to look deeper and explain how what is said in the Bible is true, and there are many valid sources that can help you.  Josh didn’t really look into any of these kinds of things.
8. Professor Radisson decides he’s an atheist because of a tragic thing that happened in his past.  So technically it’s not that he doesn’t believe in God, it’s because he’s angry at God, so he chooses not to believe in Him.  This is not the norm for atheists.  Atheists are people who decides that God doesn’t exist and never has, period.  End of story.  Instead, this is just a man who witnessed a death in the family, gets angry at God and hates Him, and decides to claim that God is not real.  In the movie Camp, which is admittedly a much more enjoyable film about spiritual redemption than this, the main character decided he didn’t want to talk to God anymore because of a death in the family when he was young.  He wasn’t a proclaimed atheist though.  If everyone who experienced a death in the family or another tragic event got angry at God for allowing it to happen, there would be way more atheists today.  I do however have to give the writers credit when Radisson confesses he’s angry at God and Josh says ‘how could you hate something that doesn’t exist?’  That was a powerful line, and one of the best comebacks I’ve heard with great delivery too.  However, it also exposes how off of a portrayal Radisson’s character is if he’s supposed to be an atheist.
9. Unfortunately, after that great comeback, the movie just crumbles apart.  I felt like the movie turned into a propaganda piece for Newsboys and Duck Dynasty, and a final middle finger to atheists.  I’m really telling the truth when I say that my heart was just torn to pieces by this ending.  When Radisson decides to go to the Newsboys concert to find his ex (because somehow he knew she’d be there) and apologize to her for everything, he’s hit by a car and lies on the street dying.  When the pastor just happens to be passing by (I know this was probably God’s timing), instead of calling 911 or trying to do everything he can to save the professor, he makes Radisson say the Lord’s Prayer, because apparently that’s the only way to have salvation, and allows him to die a painful, miserable death.  This tore me apart so much.  The pastor did nothing to try and save the professor’s physical life, but was instead for some reason more concerned for his spiritual fate.  Getting the professor to believe in God felt forced since he was in a very vulnerable, desperate position.  If I was in the pastor’s position, I would’ve called 911 and made sure he was lifted out of the street.  It pained me so much that the professor never did get to find his ex and apologize.  I understand that not all movies have to have a happy ending like that, but this was a terrible way to go.
10. Finally, right after the Professor’s death, the film pulls us into a Newsboys concert as if that death doesn’t matter at all, and the last ten minutes feels like a music video advertising Newsboys.  Josh Wheaton and the other students are completely oblivious to the fact that their philosophy professor just died.  During the end credits, I was thinking about how bad the students will probably feel once they find out.
Again, I was feeling heartbroken by it all, and I didn’t feel enthusiastic like the film apparently wanted me to be.  I hate how they portrayed non-Christians and atheists in this film.  It’s as if the writers have never actually met any atheists.  All the portrayals are bad stereotypes, and makes us think that everyone is out to get us.  We should be treating everyone regardless of their backgrounds with love and acceptance, and this film really doesn’t show that.  It treats Christianity like its a fan club where everyone is right and everyone else is wrong.  I think this movie would drive non-Christians even further away from the possibility of believing in God.  The movie Camp starring Michael Mattera was much more inspiring, subtle, and moving as a story of a man finding spiritual redemption.  The Way starring Martin Sheen, though it wasn’t technically a Christian film, had better spiritual undertones than this movie.  I’m sorry I can’t say a lot of good things about this movie.  When I saw the previews for this movie, I was dreading it, but when I went to see it at youth group, I was driven to be open-minded and give it a chance.  I was shocked by this film in a bad way.  At the end of the day, I do not recommend this movie.

Why the Twilight Series Is Terrible: Horrible Picture of Love

I just recently had the misfortune of watching the Twilight movie series.  It took a lot of snack-eating and joke-cracking to survive through it, but I did.  To be honest, I can’t remember what my first thought was when I popped in the first Twilight film.  I can’t remember if I knew I was about to watch a monstrosity or if I was actually willing to be open-minded.  Regardless, I ended up hating all these films.  In order to keep this article short however, I’m just going to discuss the biggest problem about this series: the way romance/love is pictured.

Apart from the terrible acting (Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson makes Hayden Christensen seem like an award-winning actor), and the bad CGI (CGI baby?? Really???), and the poor storytelling, this movie paints a bad picture of romance.

The first film suffers from typical Hollywood crap where Bella and Edward Cullen fall in love with each other simply because of looks.  There is absolutely no good chemistry between them.  Even the relationship between Kili and Tauriel from Desolation of Smaug had more chemistry then this one does.  Edward admits to Bella that he watches her when she sleeps at night.  You’re kidding right?  And Bella doesn’t do the sensible thing and screams at Edward to get out and never talk to her again.  She actually becomes more attracted to him because ‘he cares so much for her protection’.  This comes to one of the biggest issues.  Edward is one of the creepiest boys known to mankind.  He lustfully stares at Bella when she sits next to him in class because he wants her blood.  He pops up in Bella’s bedroom because he wants to see her.  This isn’t good material for a soulmate.  This is just downright creepy.

In the second movie, New Moon, Bella attempts to commit suicide when Edward goes away.  In the third film, Eclipse, Bella continues to nag Edward to turn her into a vampire so that they can live together forever.  It’s all she cares about and it’s almost all she talks about.  And then to make matters worse, Bella keeps trying to get Edward to have sex with her.  So is this all that romance is about?  Finding a cute person that he/she thinks is cute and pursue sex with that person?  However, I do have to give the movie credit when Edward insists that he wants to wait to have sex until they’re married, which is exactly what happens.  This is something rarely found in Hollywood films, and I have to give the movie credit for that.  Unfortunately, this is dragged down once Bella and Edward are married.  Their honeymoon is one of the worst portrayals of romance I’ve ever seen.  Every night during their honeymoon, Bella seduces Edward, and during the day they just silently play chess.  Best.  Couple.  Ever.  I was being sarcastic of course, this is not a great picture of married love.  Edward and Bella never talk about anything that can allow their relationship to grow.  It’s all about sex and being together.  It’s a relationship that’s just about the two of them being sexually pleased.

So then I guess it comes down to the question: What do believe is the right picture of romance and marriage?  Love for another person grows through being friends first.  The two people have many things in common, they have a lot to talk about, and they spend a lot of quality time together.  My dad tells me that by marrying the one you love, you’re also marrying your best friend.  The one you marry should be your best friend.  The two people should have very similar beliefs, a lot in common, and similar goals.  For Christians reading this, you and the other person marry because you know that God has brought you two together.  For people reading this who are not Christians, though Christians should take this into account too, you marry the one you love because you are best friends who treat each other with respect and honor, you share so much in common, and you would be more than willing to live together with that person for the rest of your life.  And it’s about loving each other for the beauty within, not the outward appearance.

NOTE: Next week sometime, I’ll have a review of God’s Not Dead released, and have a review of Noah out the week after that.

 

The Trap of Loneliness Part 2

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The idea of continuing on writing what I’ve written before is not exactly something I do often, but recent developments have compelled me to write more on the subject of loneliness.  I feel that I had only scratched the surface on the subject in my last post.

Almost two weeks ago, I was beginning to realize why my loneliness was not getting much better and possibly why I wasn’t finding new friends or new people around my age that I can relate to.  I drew a conclusion, and the following reasons are the most likely reasons why God doesn’t seem to be answering my prayers on my loneliness or wanting a new friend.

1) My relationship with God isn’t strong enough.  If I have a strong relationship with God, my relationships with other people will also grow stronger.  Fellowship and deep intimacy with God strengthens human relationships.  A couple days ago, I was thinking on the wrong idea that God only cared about me having a relationship with me and excluding all other relationships as irrelevant.  Obviously I was dead wrong and I know that.  God really wants us to have fellowship and relationships with each other, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.  It’s just that He wants our number-one priority, above all else, to be having a relationship with Him.  Devoting time to Him and having a strong relationship with Him will improve our relationships with other people.

2) My relationship with my family isn’t strong enough.  If I can’t have a good relationship with the people I see every single day, then how can I be trusted with having relationships with other people outside of my family?  The sad truth is that I would only push those people away, even if I’m not exactly trying to do that.  In conclusion, if you can’t be trusted with the people closest to you, then you can’t be trusted with new people.  I would hate to push new people away.

In truth, I’ve been feeling better lately as far as my loneliness goes.  I’m not even entirely sure why.  Maybe after walking around my church thinking about all the things I listed above, it allowed me to feel better because I knew what I had to do first if God was going to answer my prayers and I’ve been working on that.  God answers prayers if He believes we’re ready to handle the responsibilities that come with the requests.  If you’re feeling lonely and you wish for more company, I highly suggest you follow the steps I listed.  If your relationship with God isn’t as deep or as intimate as it can be, then it’s very likely that that’s why God isn’t answering your prayers to bless you with new friends.  He wants you to have a relationship with Him that’s deeper and stronger and more intimate than any relationship with a human can fulfill.

The Trap of Loneliness

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In the past few weeks, I’ve been struggling with feelings of loneliness, and the more I think about how lonely I feel, the worse it gets.  By feeling really lonely in the past few weeks, I’ve also grown more anti-social, which is odd because if I want to meet new people and NOT be lonely, why would I make myself even MORE isolated?

The feeling of loneliness, especially when you allow it to grow more and more over time, is one of the worst experiences you can ever go through.  I did some research into the symptoms of loneliness today.  Loneliness can cause isolation, depression, the relationships you DO have with other people can falter and slip, and sometimes loneliness can even cause (cough) sexual fantasies.

Why do these things happen when we feel extremely lonely?  As humans, we constantly desire intimacy with other people, whether its social or physical touch.  We want other people to care about us and be there for us when we need or want them.  Think about the guy from Cast Away.  After being on that island for a really long time with nobody around, he goes crazy and starts talking to a volleyball.  Because of that constant desire for intimacy, when we don’t get it, we become lonely and depressed and it takes a toll on us.  Our mind runs wild and no matter what we try to do to make ourselves happy, whether it’s by constantly entertaining ourselves with materialism or going out and doing stupid things, it doesn’t work.

There are cures to loneliness, and even though they may not work like magic immediately after doing it, as long as you’re consistent, the loneliness will fade eventually over time.  If you’re extremely lonely for a long period of time, it usually means something.  As a Christian, it probably means your relationship with God isn’t as deep or intimate as it should be, or you’re not spending enough time with Him.  God has the power to satisfy your desire for intimacy, and that’s through the intimacy of His presence.  When you spend time with Him, talk to Him like He’s another person in the room talking to you.  The conversations may feel one-sided because God doesn’t talk to you like a regular person, but He will still communicate with you if you listen, and you’ll know when He’s speaking to you when He does.  You can even ask God to help you and ask Him if He can lead you to new friends.  After all, God says “ask and you shall receive”.

Extreme loneliness can happen because of a lack of friends or lack of people you know you can turn to and talk to.  If this is the problem, one of the best things to do is to go out more.  Seek out people at your church or another public place you visit often and try to strike up conversations with them and establish relationships.  It never hurts to try, even with people who don’t look promising to you at first.  As they say, there’s more to the person than meets the eye.  Whatever you do, make sure you choose your options wisely and move to do these things quickly, because the longer you dwell within your feelings of loneliness, the worse things will get from there.