One of the biggest questions I’ve asked myself is the question in the title of this article. Why do I get depressed even when things are okay? Everything can be just fine and yet why do I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders?
1. When things are going well, we worry about how they can possibly go wrong – Almost every aspect of your life can be going just fine. Your family is intact, you have a job, you have yourself a good life, but you imagine how it can all go wrong. Something like this is natural because you don’t want to see something so good get ruined. It’s a very common fear that things will go wrong or that you’ll mess up somehow that will make things go wrong. If you have it so good, you want to do everything in your power to keep it that way.
2. Despite how good you have it, you feel like there’s something missing - You can be grateful for so much and yet feel as though something is missing and you need it. You’re not entirely sure what it is and half the time it’s nothing, but there’s still a part of you that feels empty. When we feel like something is missing in our lives, we go to great lengths to fill that void, and sometimes not in the best ways. We’re tempted to do things that are immoral when we feel down or depressed and then it becomes a fight over restraining yourself. As humans, we constantly desire pleasure of some kind and some of those pleasures are not right. Porn is a prime example of something that people will try to fill the emptiness with, and getting drunk helps numb whatever pain or emptiness we may feel, but only for a short while.
So how do we deal with these issues? How can we continue to live a good life with an optimistic view on ourselves and what we’ve been able to accomplish?
1. When we fear that everything will go wrong, remember that God has our future in His hands - This isn’t to say that we should just sit back and let God do all the action. No. This is saying that when we move through our lives, we must put God first above all else. Philippians 4:6 is pretty clear about what you should do: Don’t worry about anything; instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done. God will help you if you’re willing to allow Him. You must also have faith and confidence in yourself that you will do things right, and do what you can to get there in the meantime.
2. When we feel empty, fill yourself with something that is spiritually beneficial - Temptation is our enemy whether we’re depressed or not, so it’s important to always be ready for it. Any immoral temptation is a desire of the flesh, not a desire of the spirit. If you feel like there’s a part of you that’s empty, fill that void with something that’s beneficial. Pray to God and ask him to fill you with His presence. If you’re in a situation where fulfillment of temptation is too easy, get out of the house and go do something like take a walk or visit the library or see if you can spend time with a friend. Depression in any form is not something we can win over ourselves. If you have to, call someone you know you can trust and tell that person what’s wrong. God put certain people in our lives for a reason, and don’t you forget it.
Depression only lasts as long as you allow it. There are both right and wrong ways to overcome it, but the wrong ways are known for only keeping the depression away for a short while, and then it can come back stronger. Remember that God is there for you even if no one else is.