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Measuring the Value of Your Life by the ‘Like’ Button

 

Aah Facebook.  You’re such a big part of our social life in the 21st Century.  I mean, what would we do without you?  You allow us to post pretty much every aspect of our lives for the world to see, including our own insights, opinions, and perceptions on pretty much everything.  We can also post a picture of our birthday cake if we want to.  Everyone needs to know that I love chocolate after all.

One big thing about Facebook to note is this silly thing called the ‘Like’ button.  Simply click it, and the poster knows that you ‘like’ whatever it is he posted.  Then the poster feels happy.  And if he’s happy, then all is well with the world.  If I post something, and no one ‘likes’ it, I’ll just ‘like’ it myself.  After all, if I post something, that means I like it in some way, so shouldn’t that justify me clicking the ‘Like’ button?

On Facebook, expectations are at a feverish all-time high.  We post stuff and hope that people will ‘like’ it.  It gives the person a sense of meaning and value if other people show any amount of interest in his life.  If no one clicks ‘Like’, then the person tends to get depressed or feel like nobody cares about him.  It has happened to me, and I’m pretty positive it happens to a lot of other people.

If you’re happy with your own life, who cares if someone else doesn’t?  Your life isn’t measured by the opinions of others, you yourself measure it.  At the end of the day, you yourself determine how valuable or important your life is.  Next time you post something on Facebook, don’t measure your value based on the number of likes.  Measure it based on how much you thought it was special.

Practice What You Preach, Or Don’t Preach

 

Let’s face it.  We’ve all told people how to do certain things right, but we don’t do that stuff ourselves.  We tell someone how he should treat another person, but we don’t uphold those values ourselves.  It then becomes a situation where it becomes ‘do as I say, not as I do’.

I myself have ‘preached’ to others and sometimes don’t practice what I tell others to do myself.  So it begs the question, who am I to tell someone how to do something right if I don’t do it myself?  Concern for others is admirable, but you need to be concerned for your own heart before you get concerned about someone else’s.

Sound hard?  Yeah, I bet it does, and I should know.  We typically don’t want to examine ourselves and figure out what has to be changed, but we want to examine others and teach them how they should change.  A bad preacher is one that goes up on the platform and tells the audience how they should live even though the preacher himself doesn’t live that way.  We have no right to dictate how others live, and at the end of the day, we have no control over them either.  We can only control ourselves.

Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but you do not notice the log that is in your own eye?  Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? - Matthew 7:3-4

1. Through our fellowship with God, and through our own self-examination, we can be more effective in helping others - God created us to have fellowship with both Him and each other, and we’re supposed to be there for each other, but why do you think God asks us to seek fellowship with Him above all else?  Because our fellowship with Him strengthens our fellowship with others.  

2. Don’t judge others, or you yourself will be judged - Even if we have a strong fellowship with God, it’s not our place to tell someone how he should act.  That’s God’s job.  Instead, be encouraging to others and God will handle the rest.

AUTHOR’S NOTE: Over the next couple weeks I’m going to try getting some book reviews and analyses out there in the form of a series like pastors do in a four-week session to cover specific topics.  If anyone has any suggestions for book reviews, let me know in the comments section.  Thank you for reading!

Escaping the Repetition of Every Day

I hate to say this, but if you look at my own life, you might think it’s almost like an existential crisis.  I get up and almost always do the same stuff every day, especially on weekdays when I have school.  On Tuesdays and Thursdays, I get up between 5:45 and 6 in the morning, hop on the bus to get to English class, then after class I either go to work if I’m scheduled to or I hang out with friends at school or go home and do homework.  On Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, I get up and go to Biology class, then either go to work if I’m scheduled to, or hang out with friends at school, or go home and do homework.  I meet up with the same people on a regular basis, keep a loose schedule or a tight one depending on the day, and do the same tasks over and over again.

You might think I’m depressed because of this way of thinking.  I would like to point out that that’s not the case at all.  I’m not depressed, I just recognize the repetitive nature of life itself.  It’s not that I don’t enjoy doing most of the things I do day after day (I love talking and hanging out with my friends any time we can and I get to have a friend over on special occasions), it’s just that I recognize that I go through the same experiences day after day.  Get up, go to school, stay and hang out or go to work, and do homework at home or watch videos or read until it’s time you (finally) decide that you should go to bed.

Repetition in life actually does tend to make you feel depressed.  You can grow bored with all the same stuff you have to do to the point where you just don’t care anymore.  Despite this, it’s important to take a step back and look at what kind of special moments may be planted in your day that you didn’t really give much thought to before.

1. There are actually more little surprises and special moments during the day then you might think, it just takes a little bit of searching.  It could be a small moment that’s easy to miss or you don’t end up thinking about it much at all.  In my opinion, you can never stop learning something new about someone, and that includes friends.  Friends have the tendency to surprise you when you least expect it, and it deepens relationships and manipulates them in certain directions that God is in control of.  You may also end up learning something about yourself through experiences that you normally don’t go through…

2. …Which is important to remember, because no matter how much ‘sameness’ is in your life, you always have the ability to learn something new.  Whether it’s doing research on something that has piqued your interest, or learning new things about yourself or others, there’s always something new to learn.  This allows you to expand your horizons in life and make it feel a bit more interesting.

3. The little moments we experience in our day-to-day routine can prepare us for something larger that God has in store for us.  I’ve gone through experiences in the past that I believe I was meant to go through, and it’s all part of my growth and development as a person, and the most exciting part is that they can be helping me prepare myself for bigger things to come.  I know I like to talk a lot about ‘moments’ and ‘hope for the future’ in my articles, but these are things I tend to think about a lot, and they’re a great help in getting me through each day knowing that the best is yet to come.  One last thing I should mention is that a good suggestion is to ask God at the beginning of the day what He wants you to do that day.  What is His purpose for you on that particular day?  He might really have a great surprise for you if you’re willing to seek Him out.  What are some little moments you’ve experienced in your own life that separate themselves from your normal routine?

 

Loving Others Means You Have To Love Yourself

 

Now, I’ll be one to admit that I myself have a difficult time loving myself.  Sometimes I seem to only do the bare minimum for myself so I can just get by in life.  I want to talk about one of the most important things about life that you simply can’t live without.  You have to love yourself.  If you do, you will have the ability to love others.

I grew up making mistakes on a seemingly regular basis.  I wasn’t a straight-A student in school, in fact my grades were all over the place with not a whole lot of consistency regarding any grade.  I cheated in tests, lied about a variety of different things so that I can keep myself out of trouble (I wasn’t actually very good at lying in the first place, so I very rarely got away with it), and I picked fights with my brothers.  Today, I wish I had been a better ‘big brother’ to my younger brothers when I still lived with my family.  I wish I hadn’t lied and cheated and picked fights as often as I did.  I also seemed to have a bad lack of motivation when it came to school, and would only get really motivated if something I enjoyed was taken away from me as a consequence until I stepped up my game.

We all make mistakes.  That’s basic, common knowledge right there.  certainly made mistakes, there’s no doubt about that.  We’ve all done things that we regret, and then we punish ourselves or remind ourselves what we did, which prevents us from going far or adventuring out of our comfort zone.  We judge ourselves based on what we’ve done in the past.

A lot of us believe that we’re not worth loving, but God does.  And if God believes that we’re worth loving, shouldn’t we?  Your past doesn’t define who you are.  We’re all human beings after all.  Making mistakes is part of human nature.  God doesn’t care about that though.  He looks at the best in us and He loves us, flaws and all.

With that being said, if we don’t love ourselves for who we are, we’re simply incapable of loving others.  We need to accept ourselves for who we are, and we need to fill our own basic needs.  We need to have hope for ourselves, and pick ourselves up and push on after every mistake we make, because none of the mistakes we make are worth beating ourselves up over.  We are loved by God, so doesn’t that give us reason enough to love ourselves?

When I don’t love myself like I should, I normally find myself not loving others the way I should or the way God expects me to.  I can do nice things for people that would mean something to them, but it’s not out of genuine love for those people, it’s just a way to get appreciation or approval from others.  Even though you’re doing something to serve someone else, your motive is self-serving.  If we learn to love ourselves, we can have the joy that we need to serve others.  Loving others and serving them can be a rewarding experience, if you love yourself first.

‘Loving others as you love yourself’ is the second greatest commandment from God according to Matthew 22:39.  This commandment already assumes that you love yourself so you must love others too.  This speaks powerfully that loving yourself comes first.  How about this: If God found us worth loving enough to sacrifice His own Son, shouldn’t that give us reason enough to love ourselves?

The One Relationship That’s Forever

Another Valentine’s Day just recently passed by us.  I had a great time going with my girlfriend to ComedySportz, a comedy IMPROV show where nothing is scripted or rehearsed, but the cast is able to improvise the entire way through and still be funny and talented.  My girlfriend had a great time watching them and it was such a joy for me to know she had a good time.  She’s a great blessing in my life, and I’m so thankful to God that she’s a part of my life.

Lately I’ve been thinking though.  Relationships can always be great, as long they’re treated well and handled properly, and with God’s blessing, it’s one of the best experiences you can have in your life, but only one relationship is guaranteed and promised.  The world is full of heartbreak, division, and broken relationships.  Amidst all of this, what do we need to remember?  How can we find comfort or solitude if we have been dumped or betrayed by someone that we care about?

1.  Even when worldly relationships end, God never ends His relationship with us -  A lot of us fear that we might do something that could potentially ruin our relationships or that the other person might one day leave us behind, but there’s comfort in knowing that God will never leave me for someone else or decide that he can’t handle my habits.  He loves us exactly for who we are, scars and all, and there is not a single thing that we can do or say that will diffuse His passion and His love for us.  “In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us.” (1 John 4:10)

2.  God gives us comfort even when no one else does –  We all try to find ways to fill our desires for fellowship or comfort from others, but there is only one that can promise the best fellowship and the best comfort, and the great thing is that it’s eternal.  He asks us to come to Him when we need comfort, because He can always give it to us.  His Word promises just that.  “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)

3.  Not even the closest person in your life can top the sacrifice God made for you –  He created you, He made this beautiful world we live in, He comforts you when you’re hurting or lost, He loves you regardless of who you are, and He sacrificed His own son so that we can be forgiven and we can have an eternal relationship with Him that nothing, not even death, can separate us from.  His love is endless and His love for us is eternal.  Everything in this world is temporary, but His love for you is forever.  Trust God to take the reins in your life, because as long as God is in control, He will bless you even if you feel like you don’t deserve it.

 

Learning to Love What You Love

Yesterday, I was thinking about the fact that in all honesty, I don’t have very many interests.  I’ll admit that I don’t have a lot of variety in my life, and it makes me nervous that I may be boring because of that.  I’m one of those kinds of people who will stick to one or two things at a time and then move on to something else once I get bored with what I’m currently interested in.

This can mean interests in movies, books, and shows, and this means hobbies too.  Writing is something I always come back to even if I spend periods of time doing almost no writing.  I love to read, but sometimes I have a hard time finishing books.  I want to make something that I can show other people besides written work but I don’t know where to start.  Speaking of making things, the image below is a flower that my girlfriend made out of putty eraser.

You see?  I wish I can do something like that.  Growing up, I couldn’t ever really get myself into Legos even though I tried pretty hard.  I remember getting Lego sets for my birthday or for Christmas because I asked for them, but I spent very little time putting them together.  Now I know that every person is different and for me personally I work best with only one or two (or if I’m lucky, sometimes three) interests at a time.  Instead of feeling depressed about it, there are several positive ways you can look at it.

1. Having only one or two interests at a time means that you will most likely master the craft you love - If you only have one interest for instance, assuming it’s a hobby, you’ll spend so much time and energy in that project until you master it and make it your very own.  If you love writing, you will continue to write and write until you become the next John Grisham or Stephen King.  If you’re single interest is in drawing, you can hone the craft until your drawings would be worthy of being hung up in an art museum.  Having only one or two interests can be a blessing because all of your attention will be on it, which allows the talent you have to grow.

2. With fewer talents, there are fewer distractions - This isn’t to say that people with a wider range of talents are always distracted and are foolish.  If you have fewer talents or interests, it’s for a reason.  Not all of us can concentrate on more than one thing.  Having only one or two talents allows us to dedicate all of our focus on it, which allows us to hone our skills.

3. Remember that God gave you your talents, whether there are very few or very many - By complaining about the talents or interests you don’t have rather than feeling blessed by the interests you do have, you forget that God himself placed those talents there.  A perfect example of treating your God-given talents would be the parable of the talents.  In the story, there were three servants who were each left with a sum of their master’s own money and two of them worked to double the amount they were given.  The third servant however, buried the money until his master came back.  He did not take advantage of what he was given or tried to be responsible with it, and for that, it made his master inevitably angry.  Some versions of the Bible call the money in the story ‘talents’ for a reason, because that’s what the money was meant to represent.  They represented the talents given to us by God.  So it’s important to embrace what God has given us and use it according to His will.

It’s never too late to learn new things, and if you think you can handle it, by all means please do! It’s always good to expand our horizons, but while you’re still engaged in what you currently love doing, see it as a blessing and be excited because it can mean something big for you in the future.

“When you look at something, and you tend to use it, you have to emulate it and you have to understand it” – Monty Oum 1981-2015

In Memory of Monty Oum: Comprehending How Precious Life Really Is

 

I normally don’t post on my blog at this time of the week, but I felt very strongly about making an exception today.  On Sunday, Feb 1, at 4:34 PM, animator and show director Monty Oum passed away from a severe allergic reaction due to a simple medical procedure.  Now, we can rant and debate about how a medical procedure led to the cause of Monty’s death, but that’s not the point of this article, nor should it even really be argued.  Everyone has their own range of allergies, so there’s no possible way that hospitals can make sure every single possible thing people get allergic to gets removed from procedures.

Monty Oum died at a young age of 33.  He had a wife named Sheena, and was a creative animator and director working at RoosterTeeth, a very popular Internet web company that produces quality content every day.  I’ve been a fan of them for a few years now and at this point, I’ve almost become emotionally invested in the people that work in this company.  Monty Oum was the director of a web show called RWBY, which he was inspired to create because of a dream he had.  He worked so hard day in and day out to make his dream into a reality as if he knew he was going to pass away when he did.  He didn’t waste a lot of his time near as I can tell. He would work overnight to get stuff done but at the same time you can tell he still enjoyed life.

That being said, his passing has really made me think about just how precious and fragile life really is.  You never know when your day might come.  It could be tomorrow, it could be next week, or ten years from now.  Regardless, it’s important to live life like you’re dying.  Savor every moment of it and don’t allow your job to get in the way of building relationships with your loved ones and making a difference in the lives of others.  It’s going to be really hard for RoosterTeeth to move on, and after everything Monty did for them, I think they will be thinking of him every day.  I’ve never met him personally, but this is probably the hardest famous-person death I’ve had to think about so far.  He managed to achieve so much and touch so many lives in his short life.  It’s a common desire to want to be remembered once you’re gone, and it’s no exception with me.  If I die young, I want to know that I have made a difference in other people’s lives first.

I don’t think I’ll ever forget Monty Oum, and it’s striking to me how emotional I feel about his passing even though I’ve never met him.  I feel emotional about it because I’ve seen enough of him on videos and know a lot about what he’s done to draw an emotional connection.  He will be deeply and dearly missed.

Why Do I Get Depressed Even When Things Are Okay?

 

One of the biggest questions I’ve asked myself is the question in the title of this article.  Why do I get depressed even when things are okay?  Everything can be just fine and yet why do I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders?

1. When things are going well, we worry about how they can possibly go wrong –  Almost every aspect of your life can be going just fine.  Your family is intact, you have a job, you have yourself a good life, but you imagine how it can all go wrong.  Something like this is natural because you don’t want to see something so good get ruined.  It’s a very common fear that things will go wrong or that you’ll mess up somehow that will make things go wrong.  If you have it so good, you want to do everything in your power to keep it that way.

2. Despite how good you have it, you feel like there’s something missing - You can be grateful for so much and yet feel as though something is missing and you need it.  You’re not entirely sure what it is and half the time it’s nothing, but there’s still a part of you that feels empty.  When we feel like something is missing in our lives, we go to great lengths to fill that void, and sometimes not in the best ways.  We’re tempted to do things that are immoral when we feel down or depressed and then it becomes a fight over restraining yourself.  As humans, we constantly desire pleasure of some kind and some of those pleasures are not right.  Porn is a prime example of something that people will try to fill the emptiness with, and getting drunk helps numb whatever pain or emptiness we may feel, but only for a short while.

So how do we deal with these issues?  How can we continue to live a good life with an optimistic view on ourselves and what we’ve been able to accomplish?

1. When we fear that everything will go wrong, remember that God has our future in His hands - This isn’t to say that we should just sit back and let God do all the action.  No.  This is saying that when we move through our lives, we must put God first above all else.  Philippians 4:6 is pretty clear about what you should do: Don’t worry about anything; instead pray about everything.  Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done.  God will help you if you’re willing to allow Him.  You must also have faith and confidence in yourself that you will do things right, and do what you can to get there in the meantime.

2. When we feel empty, fill yourself with something that is spiritually beneficial - Temptation is our enemy whether we’re depressed or not, so it’s important to always be ready for it.  Any immoral temptation is a desire of the flesh, not a desire of the spirit.  If you feel like there’s a part of you that’s empty, fill that void with something that’s beneficial.  Pray to God and ask him to fill you with His presence.  If you’re in a situation where fulfillment of temptation is too easy, get out of the house and go do something like take a walk or visit the library or see if you can spend time with a friend.  Depression in any form is not something we can win over ourselves.  If you have to, call someone you know you can trust and tell that person what’s wrong.  God put certain people in our lives for a reason, and don’t you forget it.

Depression only lasts as long as you allow it.  There are both right and wrong ways to overcome it, but the wrong ways are known for only keeping the depression away for a short while, and then it can come back stronger.  Remember that God is there for you even if no one else is.