What does doubting yourself mean to you? I know a little bit of what that’s like. Two and a half years ago, I would be going home on the bus and then walking the rest of the way wondering if I was going to get confronted about something, typically a mistake I’ve made, upon walking in. I wasn’t living with my parents, and more often than not, I felt very alone. I hated myself for having autism. I hated the fact that there was something ‘different’ about me, even though I welcomed a different way of thinking and seeing the world. At the time, I started really looking for different ways that I could view the world than the one I already had, because more and more it was feeling like my stance wasn’t doing anything good for me. So much was happening at the time that caused me to see things differently, and the more I did, the more I wondered if it was remotely possible for me to fit in in the world somehow. I would come to learn later that fitting in in the world isn’t a priority that I need to have my gaze fixed on. Instead of trying to figure out other people, my attention should be on trying to figure out myself.
I’ve had the tendency to question every action I take and every word I say, and those questions usually had seeds of doubt sprinkled across them. The question I usually asked myself is ‘is there anything even remotely wrong with what I’m doing?’. Now the question I ask myself is ‘what can I do to stop doubting myself?’ When can I actually kick back, relax, and feel comfortable in my own skin? I think we’ve all asked ourselves those questions at one time or another, and for some, it’s something that weighs heavy on their shoulders on certain days, and it threatens the good things they have in their lives. My own self-doubt has threatened to taint the good things in my life and cause me to view them as too heavy a burden to maintain and preserve. Our self-doubt prevents us from succeeding and moving forward and making any progress in our lives. Mastering our self-doubt is no success to be proud of, as allowing our self-doubt to take control of our lives eventually leads to fear, which is even more crippling.
Mastering self-doubt is no feat that I want to be successful at, but self-doubt is something that I can know a lot about, so that it’s easier to recognize it, then be able to confront it and fight back. Self-doubt becomes particularly apparent when you act in a certain way around other people that you simply are not. I believe that if God created me, then I must have some worth to begin with. To spend time questioning that and beating myself up for the mistakes I’ve made is time that could be better spent searching for what makes you something with worth. To act completely as yourself is a sign of acceptance for who you are, and it’s also the most attractive to other people.
So what are the things in your life that causes you to doubt yourself? Do you doubt yourself as a whole or just some of the things you participate in or want to participate in in life? I’ve been known to feel self-doubt in both cases.