Are you really struggling or know someone who’s struggling? Struggles such as depression, anxiety, strained relationships, heartache, or just the little inconveniences in life? One of the best medicines to cure a lot of that stuff is just simply talking to that person.
The very word ‘talking’ means something different to me now than it was several years ago. When I hear the phrase ‘want to talk’, it resonates with me deeper. Talking to other people about my personal problems was not something I did often a while ago. I tended to keep a lot to myself, which I learned was damaging. I’ve learned that being more open with the people you trust and being willing to talk about what’s on your chest relieves a lot of stress and helps you to feel better.
So I know what you’re probably thinking. ’Gee Forrest, I never knew that before!’ So what am I offering that’s a little bit more fresh? When you go to talk to someone, choose the people you talk to wisely. It doesn’t just have to do with trust. It also has to do with the experiences that the people you talk to have had and what they’ve learned from it. For instance, if you’re going through a depressive cycle, it’s probably not a good idea to talk to someone else who’s going through a depressive cycle. There’s nothing wrong with spending time with people who are going through similar struggles as you. In fact, it’s a way that both of you can relate. But if you want to talk to someone in the hopes that they can help you get through a difficult time you’re having, talk to someone who has been through what you’re struggling with and has been able to overcome it, at least to a point. That way, he can help you overcome your struggles too and show you how he did it.
It’s also important to share your struggles with people that will keep it between the two of you unless you give him permission to do otherwise. Nobody likes it when someone listens to your problems and then tells other people about it without you knowing. Talk to someone who takes your struggles seriously and keeps it private.
Lastly, I believe I would be remiss not to mention that if you’re feeling really depressed, it’s vitally important to talk to someone you trust as soon as possible. I know what it’s like holding things in. Please talk to someone that you can trust like one of your closest friends, your pastor, a family member, or a teacher that you can entrust your experiences with. Simply talking to someone that you can trust will help you a lot in overcoming obstacles and give you hope when you really need it.