Right now, as I write this, a troop called Mistakes are hard at work sending me meaningless reminders, typing up fake news, and having not-so-peaceful protests against the Truths. They’re some of the most hard-working critters in our minds, and we either wrestle with them almost every day, or we let them define us for who we are.
As a human male, making mistakes are commonplace in my life. Mistakes happen. We make them because we’re human. If we never made any mistakes at all however, it would become harder for us to learn how to be better people. Speaking of mistakes, as I was writing this article, I intended on erasing a sentence, but accidentally erased half of the entire paragraph instead, and there’s no ‘Undo’ feature on this thing, so now I have to correct that mistake by writing everything all over again. With that, I rest my case about the fact that mistakes are commonplace.
A mistake like that of course pales in comparison to some of the other mistakes we see ourselves making every day. No matter how thorough you may be in making sure you do everything to the best of your abilities day to day, there’s always room and time to make a mistake, no matter how big or small, whether it’s how you use your time or how you spend your money to name a few examples. We may find ourselves saying things to other people that ultimately hurt them. We may find ourselves taking advantage of someone’s kindness or hospitality and we can take our anger out on other people even if that anger isn’t towards them in the first place.
But, you see, it doesn’t actually end there. If we’re not making legitimate mistakes, we think we are. We fret and get anxious over potential mistakes we’ve made that could’ve possibly hurt other people, when in reality nine times out of ten everything is just fine (so fake news, remember?). That being said, this whole thing comes around to what it’s like for me personally. I personally feel like I make mistakes every day, and even if I didn’t, I’ll think that I did and overthink about how I made them. Mistakes come in all kinds of shapes and sizes, so there’s never any shortage of mistakes to think about. I used to think it was possible to live day by day with no mistakes if I disciplined myself hard enough, but no matter how hard we may work at that, we always come up short, and that’s because we’re not perfect. The first thing you need to do before correcting any mistake is to accept the fact that you’ve made one and that you will make more, regardless of how careful you think you’ll be. While it may not sound like it, coming to terms with that actually allows you to feel a whole lot less stressful. Believe it or not, it’s possible to love yourself, flaws and all.
Continues in Part 2.